Feeling stuck on what to get your Mum for Mother’s Day?
There is actually a really simple way to ensure you make her day, but in order to do so you must first alter your thinking about monetary value and love…
Do we really think love can be bought?
Because for some reason, every time mother’s day rolls around we are coerced into spending countless amounts of money and time searching for that ‘perfect gift’ to give our mothers so that they know we love them.
A recent study showed that when asked what they would most like to receive for a Mother’s Day gift, almost 6 in 10 Mothers said they would like a hug, closely followed by a card and a lie-in, according to the study conducted by homes4media.com
Despite this, the research found that people on average are set to spend $40 – $70 on Mother’s Day gifts.
Have you ever spent too much time walking around a mall thinking “What should I get…. What would she want?” Only to end up buying something like a candle or a necklace that the store told you she would love?
Haven’t we all? We do the same thing year after year, but I have to ask – why do we do this?
Can’t we just make it simple?
We can. Because love should be simple.
If you want to know how to make your mother’s day, any day…
Appreciate her – the right way.
“Don’t forget a person’s greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated.” – H. Jackson Brown.
How does your mum really want to be appreciated?
Do you know?
Have you ever asked her?
Often we go through life treating others the way we want to be treated, thinking that’s the right thing to do…
But sometimes it’s not.
Especially when it comes to showing appreciation.
Because we’re all a little different right?
Some people prefer gifts, some prefer kind words. Some people prefer you doing something nice for them (helping them with something) while others just want a hug and to feel you care.
So why then are we encouraged to simply spend our money and buy expensive gifts for Mother’s day?
Isn’t that missing the point?
Especially when buying gifts is only catering to one form of appreciation out of so many!
There are a bunch of mother’s out there who would simply be over the moon to receive a hand-made card and some breakfast in bed. Or to have lunch with you at a café, talking for hours about life and just spending some quality time with you.
I promise you – you don’t need to spend a fortune.
What you need to do is find out what your mother’s love language is, and appreciate her in the right way.
If you know the way your Mum wants to be treated, the way she needs to feel loved, then you can save yourself all the time and hassle of guessing, by just giving her what she really wants.
And after all, doesn’t she deserve that?
So why not ask her the question – how can I appreciate you Mum?
Why not put that time and effort that you would have spent at the mall into thinking about what she really wants. And if you’re going to spend some money, don’t waste it on the wrong stuff.
Tell her, or better yet show her how much she really means to you.
If you know her preferred style of communication (take the quick test on our DOTS website to find out about the 4 communication styles), you can easily tailor your approach this mother’s day to ensure you make her feel special in the right way.
If she is dominant in the Purple DOT communication style – your words will mean more than a gift ever could (she needs to hear how great she is – almost on a daily basis).
If she is dominant in the Yellow DOT communication style – do something nice for her. After all, she is always organising everyone else, why not surprise her with a trip to her favourite café for lunch?
If she is dominant in the Red DOT communication style – give her something practical that she can use. Something that you know she needs (if you’re not sure here, give her a gift voucher to her favourite store so she can choose for herself).
If she is dominant in the Blue DOT communication style – show her you really care. Sincerity matters. Give her something personal, like a hand-made gift, her favourite chocolate, or spoil her with breakfast in bed (something personal).
See how simple, yet important it is to get this right?
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” – Maya Angelou.
So why not try something different this Mother’s Day… why not forget about what the shops are telling you and focus on making your Mum feel special in her own way?
Take a little time to appreciate her.
And I guarantee she’ll love you for it.
If you’d like to find out how to easily determine her preferred style of communication (or anyone else’s for that matter) then send me a message below to find out more about our personal development coaching.
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